Breaking The Rules

tTop: Jeanswest

Jeans: Embody Denim

Shoes: Wittner

Necklace: Gifted by Joss


You know what I hate? Fashion Do’s and Don’ts. They’re bollocks. Seriously. I try and break them every day. The problem is most of the fashion “rules” for someone with my dimensions are all aimed at “slimming” “disguising” and “hiding”. Colours are a no-go, I should wear black as it streamlines my figure (no one mentions, it’s also kinda boring). I should always wear heels (impossible) and never horizontal stripes (also impossible). And I should never, never wear skinny jeans.


I love this skinny cropped pair of high-waisted jeans. It’s a great pair of summer denim, all the better for wearing with a jaunty ponytail, a pair of flats and a floral blouse for an ultimately retro-styled look. The high waist creates an hourglass shape, which is emphasized by the narrow legs. My wide hips, and full thighs aren’t “balanced out” with a bootleg cut the way the Fashion Do’s and Don’ts would prefer, and you know what… I like it that way!

So. Off my The-Only-Fashion-Don’t-Is-Don’t-Listen-To-Fashion-Don’ts-Soapbox… you may may noticed another new addition to the Frocks and Frou Frou front page: A few readers have requested that I start using tags to make it easier to find things on the site. I’ve got so much in the archives, and the thought of going through it all to tag it sort of leaves me reeling, so as of now I’ll be tagging all posts I put up. At the moment I’m tagging brands, but was wondering would you prefer I tag jeans/boots/dresses/skirts, etc? Is there anything else you’d like to see on here? Shoot me an email, or leave a comment below and I’ll see what I can do!



59 thoughts on “Breaking The Rules

  1. Good for you Lilli! I like to stick it to the fashion police as well. I did a similar post on wearing skinny jeans… I LOVE my skinny jeans and I WILL wear them. I love being a rebel.

    You look amazing – I adore the shirt and you really do have a gorgeous little figure.

    I’d like you to tag seasons. As I follow you in the opposite season its nice for me to look back at what you wore during the summer as I go into summer – if that makes sense??

  2. I think you look absolutely gorgeous. And I hatehatehate the Fashion Police and their quest to make everyone think they should aspire to exactly the same image.

  3. I’ve been following your blog for a while and I love it. I love your style and your boldness. You’ve inspired me to get some skinny jeans! Keep looking gorgeous and inspiring us curvy girls x

  4. You know I looove breaking the rules! You just gave me a great idea for a topic to publish on my breaking fashion taboos series on More of Me To love! I haven’t worn skinny jeans in a while, but you inspired me!

    You look lovely! Thanks for inspiring other women 🙂

  5. You are right fashion rules are crap. It’s about how you carry yourself and sometimes we don’t all want to dress to be slim! Around christmas I wore a sequined mini dress that I’m pretty sure would be out of the rules for someone who looks like me! But I loved it and looked great!

  6. These skinny jeans fit divine on you, Lilly, and the floral print on this blouse is so pretty! This necklace is the perfect accessory for this outfit as well! Good for you for showing your rebel side and for inspiring the rest of us to do the same. Here’s hoping we’re able to start some sort of fashion revolt where we no longer play the submissive role of wearing only the do’s and instead start donning the don’ts! 🙂

  7. Fashion dont’s? What I don’t believe is that somewhere, there’s people that actually believe in this stuff. You look gorgeous (as always) :p

  8. I think the only rule should be wear what you like that you feel good in! (oh, and probably that doesnt accidnetally flash bits that shouldnt be flashed in public!).

    I love color and patterns and stripes and dont always want to wear black,or wrap dresses or v necks just cos im short and booby! And I rarely wear heels cos I like to walk everywhere when I can!

    I think this outfit looks great-emphasises your gorgeous curves and looks great! Yay for breaking the “rules”.

    1. Oh and yeah, whats wrong with looking gorgeous and curvy and sexy-why do we all have to look skinny? WHY WHY WHY!!!

  9. Yay for not following the rules! I’ve finally gotten over the whole balancing out the thighs with flares/bootlegs’ things, and have been loving narrow leg jeans in the last year. I can’t do skinny, but narrow is fine for me. I think they are so much more flattering and easier to style too.

    On tags- I reckon clothing type tags (i.e. skirts, jeans, boots etc). I know I couldn’t remember the name of a brand you had a skirt by, and by going through old posts eventually found the name (Queen Clothing). It would have been much easier to just click on a search for items tagged with ‘skirts’!!

    1. Thanks Cherry – I’ve started doing that now! I love narrow-leg jeans, too. I’m not so good with flared & bootcut – it just seems to give me unnecessary volume.

  10. I love your confidence to break the fashion rules and prove that they are, essentially, rubbish.

    I am taking on the horizontal stripes fashion rule at the moment. Coming late to the nautical trend, I have purchased a beautiful top from David Lawrence with an asymmetrical neckline, cap sleeves and horizontal stripes. Fashion rules be damned – it looks fantastic!

    But I still love black and think it’s terribly slimming. That rule is true. It doesn’t have to be boring – I’m a huge fan of accessorising the shizz out of an outfit and that’s where colour is oh so important. I use the black as the base and jazz it up from there…

    1. I totally agree, Kitty. Accessorising is such a great way to make a black outfit pop! Especially with red. (p.s. long live the nautical trend, I love it so much!)

  11. YES !. . . Dont follow the Diktat of Fashion Industry . . .just try what you Love!
    Ciao dall’Italia
    greetings from Italy
    the Artist of Italian Lifestyle

  12. first, you look absolutely adorable! the whole outfit screams: look how cute i am in my summer outfit – very laura petrie. love it!

    i love the spirit of your blog and have been inspired by it to take more chances with what i wear. no more bootcut jeans and v-neck sweaters only. a change of shape does a body good.

    i have featured this post in my in case you missed it edition today. – thanks for the inspiration!

  13. Aw Lilli! Way to go breaking all the rules! A woman should wear what makes her feel radiant because at the end of the day it is her confidence in her own self that is undeniably beautiful. You are truly an inspiration to all women!

  14. Wow Lilli! Great post – I just love how you’ve made a casual look so fashion forward. The skinnies are an absolute must, your shape really works well for em! Keep up the great work as it definitely inspires me to be more adventurous!

  15. You look great in the skinny jeans! I tried some on once, got them to mid-thigh and caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror.. I didn’t have legs, I had denim sausages. I’ve never been game enough to try them on since, but do own a pair of narrow leg jeans.

    But, I have the problem that I’ve got a bit of a belly with a completely flat butt, so I don’t think they’d work for me anyhow. Are Embody Jeans good at not creating that ‘elephant butt’ phenomenon with the excess bagginess through the area?

    1. Hi Jane, I’ve got a pretty flat, wide butt of my own. The Embody jeans are pretty good for non-saggy butts, but to be 100% honest, the best is Svoboda denim.

  16. I totally hear you – I’ve just got out Gok’s How to look good naked – and his rules for busty girls: no tweed, no fur collars, small lapels. That is a heart breaking set or rules because I love tweed, fur and big lapels. I’m taking my cue from you and I’m going to make myself something with ALL 3. I hope I end up looking as good as you breaking all the rules.

  17. Yes and how dare you break the rules and then laugh and smile in photographs.

    We all love your happy face. This is exactly why you can wear what you enjoy and not what the black police prescribe.

    Keep us all smiling by keeping yourself happy and confident.

  18. Hi,

    I think it would be great if you could tag, the items with a dress, boots, jeans, etc. Also a generic Etsy tag would be nice. Every once in awhile I want to revisit a look and can’t remember the Etsy seller, it would be nice to be able to search for those posts together.


  19. You are adorable!! I hate how fashion rules state that we should always balance our body parts out- I am smaller on the bottom than the top and so am directed to wear a wider or bootcut jean so I Iook more proportionate- but why would one want to look bigger all over! Rules are bum, in risk of sounding awfully 90’s you go girl, you look sweet.

  20. And you break the rules so well. I love that you embrace your womanly curvyness. You are a REAL woman. Not those starving women that look like bioafrans. I showed my husband your blog and he thinks you are HOT! I love visint your blog. It’s such a happy (yet incredibly stylish) place. xx

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